" I know that it hurts....... But why continue doing all this?"

We were sitting in a coffee shop. And I felt.... as though everything around me was frozen. He sat across the table..... in complete silence.... and I felt, as though the whole effort of making him come outside the house with me was a waste of time.... It was now more than 15 mintues... and not a word from him. Even the coffee was now cold, and that was the end of my patience! " Come on, speak up! What's wrong? You can't just carry on behaving in this manner!"


And finally... the truth. No points for guessing the reason. Someone broke his heart.... and yeah... all I could say was..." I know it hurts....". If you're reading this, at the moment, I can sense the thoughts going through your mind...." Poor guy, .. how sad... oh, this always happens.. but he should move on.... it's not the end of life... he'll get someone better.." and so on...


Now, as a true friend should do.. I tried to ease his pain, tried convincing him, that it was not the end.... that maybe... it was not meant to be.... and he should try and forget it... like a bad dream. But, really, if it was all that easy, I would have succeeded in 10 minutes.... and he would have walked out with me, happy and relaxed...


But, ofcource... that didn't happen.


Sometimes... our mind refuses to believe the truth. We get so stuck up with a few things... that it's difficult to let go. I'm using the word difficult, because it's NEVER impossible. we just tell our mind, that it's not possible. And so, it never is. How can any change affect you, unless you are ready to accept it from within? How can anything said to you, matter to you unless you are ready to believe it? Change, like self-confidence and belief.....has to come from within... You need to yourself realize, that no matter what, you will not let anything affect you to an extent.... that you will not give up everything... and not hurt yourself. Someone has so rightly said, " Just as no ship can sink, unless it lets the water in.... No one has the power to hurt you, unless you let them do it.."
And well, I have something to add on..."AND,  The one's who would actually DESERVE that power... will Never hurt you..."


Sometimes, we need to stop analyzing the past.
Stop planning the future.
Stop trying to figure out precisely how we feel....
Stop deciding with our mind... what we want our heart to feel...
and Sometimes.... we just have to keep faith..
Keep faith and believe, that someone... somewhere cares...
And it is for that person, that I will be strong...
I will never give up.....


We all have our heart breaks..... everyone gets hurt..
But, we should realize, that it should be taken as a experience... and then we should move on.... What's the point in brooding over the past? If you're going to be lost in the past... How will you step into the bright future?


Moreover... what actually pained me... was the lack of concern for others.
He was hurt... but, because of his attitude.... others who cared for him were also hurt. Everyone is not going to be sweet to you... and behave as you like them to do so..... But, because of just someone who hurt you, is it really justified to hurt the others who care a lot for you? And this is what I tried explaining to him.
As Shelly rightly said, " If winter comes, can Spring be far behind?"
And so,
" Dance as though no one's watching...
Sing as though no one can hear you..
Live as though heaven is on earth...
And love as though you've never been hurt before........"


Life is not always going to be all smiles.... there will be tears...
But, you need to look past the tears and see, that for every one person that may hurt you... or dislike you... there are many more who love you and care for you. Now, it would be upto you, whether you choose the tears... or the smiles........